Hello stalkers!

Have you ever felt lonely when you’re forced to be alone?

Well, I’m talking about times when you are not the sole reason for your loneliness.

Let us understand clearly. Think back during the times when you are forced to leave your classmates of your school while moving to college. In this case, you aren’t responsible for leaving them. It’s just the situation being separative.

Sometimes, you need to leave alone for work you almost hate. Other times, you may miss your closest person as they are no more. Even, you may experience distance at times when your lovable people are far away from you for some reasons.

What I’m enforcing in these scenarios is people.

The being-lonely will happen when you are not surrounded by people. It happens even when people are around sometimes! But let’s not talk about that. Because, I choose to tell you about when you are not the reason for your loneliness. Which means those times when you are lonely because of people not being around.

Let’s go again.

Have you ever felt lonely when you’re forced to be alone?

If yes, then probably you would’ve gone through misery at least for a while. Don’t worry, it is normal. We are humans, sometimes we forgot that.

Have you ever wondered how to overcome the heavy, sad, nudging feeling during the lone time as your own mind bombards you with millions of accusation and questions at the same time?

First thing is, do not suppress the feeling of loneliness. Let that feeling surface over and now listen. When you take it as a serious issue and worry about being lonely… then I’ll tell you something new about being lonely.

You probably would’ve heard this somewhere,

Being alone is not being lonely

If not, I bet you could understand it by reading it. Being alone is just not worrying about your loneliness. You feel complete and content even just by being with you.

Do you know when will you be alone and stop being lonely?

It is when you realise you can be happy with yourself and just accept that people will leave. That’s what happening all around the world; in one way or the other. Not just for you.

I believe, realising that a phenomenon being epidemic and not just happening for us will reduce the effect of worry. It actually feels satisfying that someone else is experiencing such things too. That’s human nature.

Let me tell you…

How distance can change your perspective?

I agree that distance will not always brings us joy. There are times when it becomes our third hand in solving problems, like, if you’re trying to quit the relationship between you and your lover and distance took over, you eventually break-up and go on. (happened to my friend that’s why)

But, hey, you must know distance or space can teach you things which weren’t visible to your bare eyes.

1. Value ✨

People take things for granted if it is always available. It is as simple as that. You what taking-for-granted mean? You are being ungrateful for the situation or thing or a person.

When you are ungrateful, you will be seeing ungrateful things coming up in line like magic. I swear, I’ve experienced it and totally compel to not do that.

And you can’t just agree with me if I say so. That’s why distance will prove it. Take your own life experience, a current one. Be it you are away from your parents for work purpose, your friends are not in contact with you after years, you have broke up with your loyal lover due to misunderstanding, your great tutor or mentor had resigned the job of teaching, etc…

Now that you feel lonely due to that or due to the distance created by the separation, you have a throbbing feeling ebbing your heart, haven’t you?

Do you spell it ‘miss you’ or ‘miss them’?

That means you have reached the point when you realise the value of the things which were right in front of you all the time, but never you have thanked it or them (even pets, plants or things).

So, be grateful that the distance is teaching you the value of things, so you won’t take them for granted again.

2. Treatment ️🪙

All the following are respect to the first point ‘Value’. Once you realise the value of the things which made you feel lonely, you accept your responsibility of not-being grateful.

So, you will slowly start seeing the good things during those times you were with the thing or person or anything and cherish the memories like you never did.

Remember,

If you get the feeling of happiness, it simply means you are grateful for it and vice versa.

The next time you get a chance to meet or rebound to the things you’ve missed, you would treat them like treasure. They are treasure! Everything around you have a valuable place in your journey of life to make you move forward. Be it water, air, tress, vehicles you travel, people, parents, lover, friend, brother.

I’m talking about people but this topic suits if you place a thing instead. Example, you are going to your office in a private van arranged by you. One day, suddenly the van had a damage and the owner stopped his service of dropping you to your office and bringing back. You don’t have an option to use any other mode or simply it is more stressful to go by some other vehicle.

How do you feel? You are just left alone. You are left in a situation that you are only responsible to solve it. The same sense of ‘miss them’? That is also kinda being lonely.

So, distance can change you treatment towards the things which left you in a lone corner of nowhere.

3. ️Perception 👁️

When you learnt the lesson of distance, you actually should be appreciating it. It had changed your heart, actions and finally your perception towards it. You were once hating and feeling sad for being left out from the things which gave you company at time when you need them, but now, you are grateful for such thing to come into your life and bring your consciousness into light.

Because, you know, everything needs break to run in a refresh-mode. Also, I believe a vacation with just yourself can show you how much you miss your boyfriend or girlfriend. And I would suggest solo trips (i.e, intentional distances to enhance relationships. I never meant ‘no contact’ and all the stuffs. I just want to make some physical separation to really feel what your were treating like “It’s no biggie, it can wait.”

But, if you miss it now, it would turn into never.

I always like reunion movies. Let me tell you why. Because when a couple is broken and re-unite after a period of separation, they rebound with new sense of realisation and wisdom of treating and significance of each other. Their value system increases, making their bond stronger.

When times come to make them fight again, they rebound in multiplied force than the time they once broke up (For all the true unconditional love).

That’s why I fall for such stories every time I across.

What changed here is perception.

See the distance as an opportunity to unlock your potential and view things clearly. Make use of that time to uncover your own voice. Don’t just dwell in misery in the name of “I’m lonely, omg!”

That’s absurd. When distance provides you the universal truth of separation, you must embrace it. Believe that everything has its own reason and if you are confused to handle your loneliness, first do not suppress the feeling of loneliness. Let that feeling surface over and now listen. When you take it as a serious issue and worry about being lonely just listen to your heart and it will whisper the answer.

All you have to do is muster the will to make it happen…

READ & CHEERS 🍻