Hello Stalkers!

There are several people in my high school roaming with a tag ‘committed’. I never understand what is the need to search someone when you are already in scarce of self-love.

Man had an edge over other animals and conquered the earth, with his only power! That Power is called… ‘Reasoning’

Wondering why am I saying this?

You know, I read one book that changed all the fantasy about Love I was grooming all these years. It was an absurd story. Well, that’s for later.

Basically, I am a love-sick person. I’m emotional when it comes to relationships either book-wise or in real-time. Either way, I’m fond of Romance and all those things tied with it. Love was the only thing I ever want to achieve in the form of my ideal partner.

But what does that quote do with Love or my sudden belief-system change (which was traumatic for days)?

Why do we want Love in the first place? ✨

Well, man is a social animal. He can’t live alone ALL THE TIME. He is a form of creation which relies on feelings, especially a secure and comfortable one.

That usually is possible when you can have your parents, or friends, or lover or whatsoever. But simply, we need someone. That’s totally fine!

The worst part is, sometimes we might be ahead of ourself that we forgot to fill ourself with the so-called Love and beg for others to pour affection and care to us. What’s the point?

How will you give something to others which you don’t have already? Vice-versa too.

Without others attention and Love or sharing your feelings, one can’t live peacefully. To be precise, one can’t love itself.

Ever wondered why Love is so significant in our life? This is why. We all are humans and they will be bonding with each other in romantic relationships or in any form of close bonding which would always keep us in soothe mood and happy.

Let’s be specific. A relationship of Romance. Your spouse…

What most people think is Love? 💘

If a person is kinda short-tempered, gaslighting, over-possessive or cold he/she’s tagged as red-flag. What does that imply? He’s not suitable for some people to be in relationship. Agreed?

Let’s proceed.

Case 2, if a person is caring, humorous, protective, or honest he/she’s tagged as green-flag. What changed now? Behaviour, obviously. Now he’s the favourable one. Agreed again?

Lovely.

I want you to answer this question now: Is Love, by any chance, (A) is conditioned with certain traits or (B) is boundless without no explanation?

The people, who chose (B)… (me chuckling) weren’t you the one who agreed to both the cases I’ve shared you? And that means you agreed that if the person with certain traits will be lovable…

Hello, people, who chose (A)… Then you have mis-consumption about what is Love itself.

Love is simply, firstly, Unconditional. To explain it, let’s go with a test. If you ask yourself that why do you love your other half, you would probably list several reasons for sure (If not, well still you have to know what is Love).

Next ask yourself the next question, if your other half didn’t tick the checkbox of reasons you had for them, will you stop loving them?

To be honest, we’ll start hating them if they do the opposite. But we might as well like them whether they’re good or bad in our perception.

Unconditional Love is when you have no reason to tell why you love them except the reason that you love them. It’s the reason itself. You never expect anything in return. ‘In return’ — I mean not only physical or material things but also the feeling they give you when you are with them.

You would even not expect them to reciprocate their Love. You’ll be okay with the fact that you love the person for no reason. No physical touch, no sympathetic affection, or no behavioural attraction is involved in Unconditional Love.

That is what Unconditional means.

Can any one love somebody without expecting any of these? 👻

This is the last and funniest question that I would post to you. Just think. You might be a person who would not ask them to love you back or involve in any physical contact or anything.

But as I said, human at least expect feelings that they would rely on.

Which means there’s practically nobody who can be like that. Would you love somebody who did nothing or meant nothing to you. Will you fall in Love(emotionally) to a stranger who passes you at the bus stop?

Crazy, yet so true.

We obviously can’t Love without expecting a single thing for the other half. We bound to be together by colliding our circles and mixing two beats not with nothing. You know why? Because we won’t do anything if we got no reward or simply we won’t do anything without any reason.

The story which changed how I think about Love, made it crystal clear that,

Where Reasoning exists, Love will not be found.

Read it again.

Again.

You are asking me whether stopping our reasoning ability will make us reach Love?

(Ahem!) Well, go and read the first quote which confused you in the beginning.

So, guys. Don’t freak out. Let me tell a Universal concept which is from the beginning but you are getting to know just now.

Love is not such thing which you take it for granted. It is pure, have reasons to exist. Never rely on anything; boundless and unconditional. If you are really in Love, you would not even expect the person to be with you for the rest of your life. Their memories alone will be the evidence and footprints of you Love.

It not what you chat-with-your-lover-in-Instagram to grow love. It will not spark with a sight. It is not what sugar-coating words make it look lovable. It is not the way you take of other. It is not making a cup of coffee for the other. It is not being good in bed that is called Love.

Never mix such as pure as soul thing with limited, restricted, human-made tags and actions.

When we are humans, we can’t deny being reasonable. When we are reasonable we just can’t be in Love.

It is what it is.

Then what shall we call the so-called-Love phenomena if it is not Love?

Hmm…

I have a choice of having it with the same first letter but a bit realistic way. Ever heard of the word Lust?

Lust: noun; very strong desire to have or get something.

Get it right, what I’m meaning. We all need something in the terms of Love which is actually the definition of Lust. The drive within us which always wander in daydreams of our Wedding destinations and dances with the book-boyfriends is more or less Lust.

I never say that you shouldn't say I love you to your lover. Just tell the truth that you are in love, so badly. It is what humans are. But what I say is, have the right understanding about what is Love.

Don’t cheat your heart by doing nasty things in the name of Love.

Love rises like the sun rises in East. However, unlike sun it never sets. So, if you are saying that I've lost interest in the person I once thought I loved, then you really not have loved them. Its just infatuation and the result of being dramatic.

I'm not saying one should not love, I just say to stop meaning things like that as Love.

If you really adore Love, just know it has a value which a human can never attain or satisfy. So, stop putting those things together with Love.

In common terms of day-to-day living, we love each other, we do share the feelings, be affectionate, use polite words which would linger in our heads the whole day and ought to help each other. We call it Love.

But in deeper form, it is something else. Seamless and passionate.

Next time, if you are about to say ‘I love you’, say it bold.

Type it in full form unlike ‘ily’ or ‘143’ during chats.

And know that humanly Love is Lust…

READ & CHEERS 🍻